Anger is a cover up for a powerless state.
Experts in political psychology say people who are more confident in their understanding of something are often less aggressive about it.
People who are more knowledgeable about a topic are more aware of its nuances, and more confident in their ability to argue their perspective. They’re able to tolerate opposing ideas because they don’t threaten their own.
Anger is often what happens when our defenses fire up in response to feeling profoundly vulnerable. Anger is the way our psyches shield us from admitting that what we are really feeling is hurt, or helpless, or unworthy.
We are only angry when we feel powerless.
The solution is not more anger for the sake of it, the solution is action.
Jealousy is a cover up for a powerless state.
Envy is an incredible emotion because it is a smoke signal toward what it is we really want in life.
When we are jealous of someone, it’s not that we actually want exactly what they have, rather that we are defending our inability to also allow ourselves to have what we really want.
When we are jealous of someone, our response is to deny them their own power. We look for reasons why they are not that successful, or not as deserving, or fake or unfunny or disliked.
We hunt for ways to humanize those we envy, so we can tolerate our own profound humanness.
Jealousy is what happens when we have suppressed our desire for something, and so we must also suppress it in anyone who has that thing.
We are only jealous when we feel powerless.
The solution is not more envy for those who have what we want, the solution is action.
Fear is a cover up for a powerless state.
Fear grips its teeth into us when we fail to take action in the face of it. When we begin obeying the beast, it takes dominion.
Fear is what happens when we recognize what it is we really care about. Fear is what happens when the wounded child within us wants to keep us small, and safe from ever being hurt again.
Fear doesn’t realize that shrinking our lives down so as to keep them comfortable hurts us worse than anything outside of us ever can.
Because fear alone cannot stop you. Fear must invoke doubt, and shame, and insecurity to do that work.
We are fearful when we do not believe we have the capacity to overcome an external challenge, even when, in reality, we do.
We are only scared when we feel powerless.
The solution is not worrying until we one day feel better, the solution is action.
Procrastination is a cover up for a powerless state.
It’s not what we do when we’re bored, or uninterested, or lazy. Procrastination is not a defect in your personality, or a side-effect of being an unmotivated piece of crap.
Procrastination is what happens when we know that we aren’t doing what it is we need to be doing, and yet we are too afraid to dream bigger, or to choose again.
Procrastination is what happens when we know we aren’t on the right path. It’s what happens when we try to create something it is not in us to create, when we try to live in a way that we fundamentally do not want to.
Procrastination is what happens when we realize something is not working, but are too scared to admit it.
We only procrastinate when we feel powerless.
The solution is not more avoidance, the solution is action.
Self-hate is a cover up for a powerless state.
When we cannot accept ourselves as we are, it is not because we believe we are inherently bad or broken or ugly or unworthy. It’s because we are so terrified of the world not accepting us, we go on a warpath to try to appease it.
Self-hate is what happens when we try to beat fear to the finish line.
It’s what happens when we are so obsessively invested in the way we are perceived, because deep down, we’re really unhappy with how we feel each day.
The only high we know how to seek out is the guarantee that things look good… that they look correct.
Trying to convince the world that we are beautiful and successful and worthwhile is not the problem, it is a symptom, and the symptom is living in a way that does not genuinely feed your spirit.
We do not hate ourselves because we dislike ourselves.
We only hate ourselves when we feel powerless.
The solution is not being even meaner to ourselves in our heads, the solution is action.