Everyone wants the book deal, nobody wants to write thousands of words every day.
Everyone wants the happy relationship, nobody wants to accept an imperfect person who makes them feel joyous, indifferent, angry, resentful, turned on and content all at once.
Everyone wants more money, nobody wants to put in the long, tired hours that building second, third and fourth streams of income require, because your salary alone probably won’t make you very wealthy.
Everyone wants to be their own boss, nobody wants to take the risk of starting the business. Everyone wants to travel, nobody wants to do the work it takes to be able to afford it. Everyone wants to be physically healthy, nobody wants to give up their vices.
The thing is that we all want to have exceptional lives.
Even if you don’t think you do, deep down, you do. You want to feel good, you want to have purpose, you want to be comfortable, you want to enjoy your existence.
Yet getting to that good, purposeful, comfortable, joyful place often requires first trudging through a whole lot of uncomfortable shit.
And that’s where you lose most people.
To create an exceptional life, you need to create exceptional circumstances.
This means that you need to be willing to be different. It means that you have to make choices, and at times, sacrifices for the greater, long-term good. It means you have to think ahead, to live in the service of the wellbeing of your future self, as opposed to the moment-to-moment cravings and desires of your current one.
What you see on the surface is people who are thriving, and what you don’t see is the huge machine of effort and work and time that was put into getting there.
That’s the part that people don’t fall in love with, the actual doing of it.
They just like how it looks when it seems like you can coast.
To become the person you really want to be, you are going to have to defy your most essential instinct in life. You are going to have to differentiate yourself. You are going to have to do things others would not. In the words of Mastin Kipp, you must live as others won’t, so you can live as they can’t.
This means that while other people are out buying new cars, you’re going to be putting your money toward your student loans, and diversifying your investment portfolio, because the long-term payout matters when you’re measuring appreciating assets from depreciating ones.
That means that while other people are at cocktail hour, you will probably still be at your desk.
That means that while other people are on their third drink later that night, you’re sipping club soda because you can’t mentally afford to be hungover the next morning.
If you look at how someone invests their energy and money, you will see where their priorities are. Many will gladly spend $100 going out on the weekend, but the same price for an online course on marketing? Too expensive. Many people are willing to settle for a $40K/year salary, but aren’t willing to take two years of living on rice and beans so that they can make six figures for the rest of their lives.
If you really want to change your life, it means that you’re going to have to do the uncomfortable things that other people are not willing to do. It means that you are going to have to toe the edge of your comfort zone every day and leap away from it sometimes with fear striking through your heart.
It means you’re going to have to be mentally and emotionally resilient. It means you’re going to have to do your inner work. It means that your excuses must be rendered irrelevant. Your life will no longer measured by your potential, but measured by your outcomes.
It is going to be hard. But it is going to be worth it.
Because it also means that while other people are complaining that their dreams went unrealized, you’ll wake up excited to go to work.
Maybe you’ll have little overhead, and multiple streams of income. Maybe you’ll be able to vacation for far more than two weeks a year, because maybe you’re your own boss. Maybe you’ll be able to throw back cocktails that you can actually afford, when you can actually afford them. Maybe you won’t need to do that at all. Maybe you will be healthier than you have ever been. Maybe you will improve your life in every measurable and immeasurable way. Maybe you will be mentally strong and self-mastered.
While other people spend the rest of their lives sitting around complaining that their dreams are still just dreams, you will not be able to relate.
Because maybe you decided that you’d do what they would not, so now, you can live as they cannot.