Make it easy for people to help you.
Make it effortless for people to be around you.
Make it simple for people to contact you.
Stop making your life harder than it needs to be.
Stop making excuses for your clutter.
Hang up your clothes, wash the dishes, wipe the countertops, organize your belongings. When you live in slight disorganization, you keep your mind in a state of slight chaos. You are never fully settled, you are always one or two tasks away from being able to focus and relax. Stop making being home harder than it has to be.
Stop ascribing intent to stranger’s motives.
If an acquaintance says something rude, assume they’re projecting a fact about themselves, not issuing a personal attack against you. If someone cuts you off in traffic, or is unfriendly to you at the store, shift your response to recognize their short fuse is a product of their own unhappiness, not yours. Stop making basic interactions harder than they have to be.
Stop worrying about health trends.
Eat healthy foods in moderate amounts, work out a few times a week, get enough sleep. Stop worrying about outcomes, and focus on inputs. Stop making wellness harder than it has to be.
Stop overthinking your relationships.
Show up, be kind. Kindness is the single most fortifying element of sustainable relationships, and the one we most often forget about. Stop treating those closest to you worse than anyone else — proximity doesn’t make someone a punching bag. Stop making people harder than they have to be.
Answer your emails, answer them promptly, and answer them within your working hours.
Don’t reply on a Saturday night if you don’t want to set the standard that it’s okay to reach you on a Saturday night. Stop making communication harder than it has to be.
Stop being elusive.
If your business in any way relies on clients, customers or viewers — which, almost everyone’s does in some way—make your email available, or a contact form easy to access. Set up a business page on Google, make a personal website that describes what you do, or fill out your LinkedIn page.
Stop doing the bare minimum.
Stop assuming that you are ever going to be content with a life in which you have based your sense of worth. Stop resisting help. Stop being a difficult person to work with. Stop justifying your shortcomings.
We cannot cleanse life of all its difficulty — nor should we try to.
However, there are a myriad of self-sabotaging behaviors we use to stand in our own way. They are often the simplest ones you can think of.
In doing this, we often find, the greatest obstacle was really just ourselves.